“What’s going to happen when I get older still? Who will the burden fall to if I get ill? How can I feel completely safe and secure without being a burden?”
Liz knew one thing for sure.
“What I did know was that I did not want to live on my own anymore. It was my decision.”
With the support of her children she looked to answer these questions.
She found that seeing truly was believing in putting to rest anxieties and pre-conceived ideas about retirement villages. She discovered there were options to suit everyone and the serviced apartment option ticked all the boxes for Liz.
Liz has always lived with lots of people around.
“Growing up in our place was like a youth hostel,” she recalls fondly.
Being around people again was a priority for her. From boarding school at age 10, to raising four children, Liz’s life was always busy.
So, in many ways allowing herself the opportunity to relax into retirement was empowering, but she also liked company.
Living in a serviced apartment option allows Liz the balance of having the independence to come and go as she pleases, whilst having the security of extra help if she needs it.
“I’m pretty fit for my age, but who knows,” Liz says.
In the meantime, she enjoys having a joke with the staff when they visit daily to make her bed and help with chores.
At this stage for Liz, these are the key aspects in serviced apartments that appeal the most.
Taking the effort out of chores like vacuuming had also made a huge difference.
“It makes me feel years younger that help is there if I need it. It takes the stress away.”
Liz’s mum lived in a retirement home and her late husband Geoff was in care for four years, so she understands the anxieties and guilt that go along with making your initial decision.
Especially when your children are worried about you.
After all, it doesn’t matter how old your children are, you still feel responsible for them.
Liz dealt with these issues by taking the bull by the horns, and encourages others to do the same.
“You need to come and have a look, take the whole family and have a chat about how much better Mum and Dad will be there.”
Liz was adamant that she did not want to be a burden on her four children.
She wanted her family to be able to live their lives the way they wanted to.
They are now so happy because Liz is so happy.
Liz recalls that first visit with her family: “From the moment I entered I thought, this is lovely.”
After a life of cooking for others Liz welcomed the opportunity to take advantage of the luxury of choosing from a menu for a freshly prepared midday meal made for her.
The midday meal is important as a social outing, and keeps residents feeling connected.
There is a buzz and vibrancy about the place and it is an opportunity to catch up.
“We talk about life in general, but we stay away from politics,” Liz chuckles.
What she does each day in the village is entirely up to her.
If you need extra help it is there, if you are a social butterfly there is a plethora of activities to choose from.
Or if you simply enjoy the independent comforts of home then you have your apartment set up in your own special way. Liz could not have put it better, it’s up to you!
Life has many stages and the transition into retirement living is simply another one of those stages.
Liz’s encourages others to take control of that decision.
With a twinkle in her eye she says: “Make the move when you’ve still got your marbles, and when you still have your good health. That good health will carry on for years if you do it at the right time.”